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I think a big issue with relationships these days is that people (particularly men) separate the idea of a relationship from the idea of a friendship.That being said – I have my own thoughts and opinions on the concept of men and women being able to be ‘just friends’ with each other with no tension or desire for something more. Whether or not men and women can be just friends should not separate the two concepts altogether.You can have a friendship without a relationship, but you can’t have a relationship without a friendship.Contrary to popular belief, platonic friendships between men and women exist.We rarely criticize our friends or put them down in public, and we often take our time to listen to them and understand their perspective, even if we think they're wrong. The likeability factor is derived from catering to each other's wants and needs just out of kindness or thoughtfulness, which increases someone's platonic feelings toward another person.It would make sense, then, that the person for whom you already do all of these things would make the best relationship partner. The desirability factor is derived from the absence of those things, which ferments that kind of desire that reflects the old adage, "You want what you can't have."If one of these is more present than the other in the relationship, the relationship will fail.But the issue this causes is that we are not building strong foundations for relationships.Friedrich Nietzsche once said: This concept serves to teach us the importance of building a foundation for happiness that stretches beyond intimacy into friendship itself. When dating, we typically only want to show someone our best self.
In contrast, being aloof and challenging made a person more attractive and desirable, but did not make them likeable.This is the type of unwavering love a relationship needs in order to thrive in the long term as well.