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They assume the other person thinks the worst of them and is focusing on their flaws and mistakes.
This is usually because people who are socially anxious tend to have lower self-esteem and make automatic negative assumptions about themselves.
But real relationships are based upon sharing who you are with your date.
Self-disclosure is the gateway to intimacy–it lets you get closer to someone as you both reveal more and more.
Knowing there were treatments that could (and did) help them gain confidence and a new perspective, I felt compelled to write a book about the skills that help people get past social anxiety. Combining ACT with traditional exposure and cognitive techniques rooted in CBT, here are some of the most effective ways to approach dating anxiety: Practicing self-disclosures Shy and anxious people are less likely to share about themselves and self-disclose.
Dating advice books may prescribe pick-up lines or manipulative, gamey strategies to win over a date.
If they make a comment that comes out wrong, they beat themselves up for hours or days afterwards.
The threat of negative evaluation from others–such as being negatively perceived by your date–is the root of social anxiety, and is exacerbated in a dating setting.
Most of the time, anxious daters highly overestimate how harshly their partner is judging them.
Because social anxiety is such a widespread problem, psychologists have worked hard to develop treatments that work.
Four separate meta-analyses have shown Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to be effective in treating SAD.
The DSM-5 defines social anxiety as the “persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing.” Those who are shy, if not socially anxious, tend to experience social situations in a more reserved, tense and uncomfortable manner, especially when meeting new people.