Put the fun back into dating
As of this writing, 38% of Americans who describe themselves as “single and looking” have used an online-dating site.
It’s not just my generation—boomers are as likely as college kids to give online dating a whirl.
He invited me to an event he was throwing and after that we started talking almost everyday.
Here’s the tricky part: Now he doesn’t call me as much and when we text he sometimes leaves me hanging mid-conversation.
The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom. Let’s look at how I do things, maybe with a slightly less important decision, like the time I had to pick where to eat dinner in Seattle when I was on tour last year.
He quickly deduced that she was the appropriate height (finally! First I texted four friends who travel and eat out a lot and whose judgment I trust. Finally I made my selection: Il Corvo, an Italian place that sounded amazing. (It only served lunch.) At that point I had run out of time because I had a show to do, so I ended up making a peanut-butter-and-banana sandwich on the bus.
He gradually started acting differently and as a result, you’re much more interested in him now than you were in the beginning.
If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?If I were in his position, I would continue acting in the way that has you chasing. He tried it one way, it probably felt terrible to him and ultimately got him rejected.