When your friends start dating each other
Alright, so this is a pretty unusual situation as far as things like this go. I understand where you’re coming from – no one likes to feel like a third wheel.
I just found out that my two best girl friends in the entire world are lesbians and that they’re dating! They seem happy and I don’t want to mess that up, but I also don’t want to feel like a third wheel. It’s totally understandable for you to feel left out and a little bummed out, even if you’re happy for your friends at the same time.
Sure, it's annoying when they nose-cuddle in front of you, and they always break off from the group to do their own thing, but at least it's less stressful than when someone starts dating outside your friend circle and you have to deal with this whole new person being around all the time. And when those two start getting dramatic, they don't confine it to the bedroom: They want you and the rest of your friends to be the audience and judge in their own version of the and you'll see what we mean…there is nothing more boring and annoying than watching your friends bicker about their relationship.
So here's our tips on what to do if your buddies try to drag you into their drama. Don't Engage – You're not there to decide who was in the right when these two are fighting about drapes.
If you’re hearing phrases such as: “You’re like a brother/sister to me” or “I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship” or if your friend is asking advice on another person he or she is attracted to, you shouldn’t even think about dating the friend because chances are your friend doesn’t share the same romantic feelings for you. You both should be going into the new relationship hoping for serious results.
It won’t work if one person is more serious about the relationship than the other and it’s probably not worth it if you’re both looking to see each other casually.
You most likely have similar interests, are in the same social circles, enjoy the same hobbies and you already know the other person cares about you.
Say that you have no problem with their sexual orientation, but you want to continue to hang out with them without always feeling like you’re intruding on one of their private dates.
If you guys are truly all friends, you’ll be able to work around this stuff and stay friends.
A good friend is loyal, supportive, understanding and shares the same interests as you.
You should only date a friend if taking your relationship to the next level is a serious decision, and if you decide to do it you have to go all in—ask the person out on a real date—one where car doors are opened, flowers are purchased, the whole nine-yards.
You’re going to want to make it known that this isn’t just another dinner out as friends. It you’ve decided to take the plunge and enter in a romantic relationship with a friend what do you do if it doesn’t work out?
If you really honestly feel like they’re leaving you out, then you say something.